THE LAW OF PAIN
Good Management of Bad Experiences Leads to Great Growth
How do you react to bad experiences? Knowing that everyone has bad experiences and no one likes them, how do you turn them into positive experiences? First, you need to face them. I think it’s too easy to put our bad experiences past us, but unless we learn from the experience, the chances of them happening again are greater.When you face the pain if a bad experience, what is your response?
- I do anything and everything possible to avoid pain at all.
- I know pain is inevitable, but I try to ignore it or just block it out.
- I know everyone endures pain, so I just endure it when it comes.
- I don’t like pain, but I try to remain positive despite it.
- I process the emotion of painful experiences quickly and try to find a lesson in them.
- I process pain, find the lesson, and make changes proactively as a result.
Of course your reaction to different situations may be different, but overall what is your reaction? I think people generally avoid reflecting on their bad experiences because they don’t see value in it. John lists a couple of ways you can turn your pain into gain;
- Choose a positive life stance
- Embrace and develop your creativity
- Embraces the value of bad experiences
- Make good changes after learning from bad experiences
- Take responsibility for your life
It is vital for the longevity of the business for the leader to learn from bad experiences. An example could be how some of the automobile manufacturing companies failed to change and needed large government loans to stay operational. One company didn’t because they already made some of those hard decisions.
Whether it’s a personal or business bad experience, think of a problem and use the same process John uses when he encounters a painful experience:
- Define the problem
- Understand your emotion
- Articulate the lesson
- Identify a desired change
- Brainstorm numerous pathways
- Receive other’s input
- Implement a course of action
Remember, personal change requires action and sometime you need someone to help you along. You can do this with the help of a trusted friend or a personal coach.
What does the quote, “Every problem introduces a person to himself,” mean to you?