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What does it mean to have bliss? Is it to be happy? It must be more than that, and how come so many people struggle to have it?

How come so many people struggle to have happiness?

Happiness is a choice, what makes one person happy can make someone else upset. It’s how their past experiences affected their feelings at the time, and those feelings will come out when that experience happens again.

Until you realize that the feelings you have are linked to past experiences, you can’t release what makes you upset.

Maybe you achieve bliss by being able to control the negative feelings you have and always look on the positive side of each experience. What is the learning experience?

So we need to figure out what prevents us from being happy, what internal truths, may not be truths.

Bliss has to be more than just happiness on steroids. Its definition is ‘paradise,’ or what we would believe heaven to be. But does that definition lead us to believe that we can only achieve bliss in the afterlife? That we need to suffer during our present life to make us deserving of eternal bliss.

What if we don’t get to experience eternal bliss if we don’t find bliss in our physical life? If you believe what Napoleon Hill outlines in his book “Outwitting the Devil,” 98% of the people aren’t following their true purpose, and when we don’t follow our true purpose we commit one of life’s biggest sins, not doing what the Grand Overall Designer but us on this earth to do.

When we find and live or purpose we may find and live blissfully. So how do we achieve bliss?

In an article by Sadhguru Jaggi Vasudev on Being Blissful, he states that “How you become blissful doesn’t matter. Somehow you become blissful. That all that matters.” It sounds like the harder you try to find blissfulness that harder it is to achieve it. Like all great things in life, the harder we chase it, the harder it is to capture. I think it’s because we expect too much from others to help us be happy, but we’re happy when we learn about ourselves, and are able to accept ourselves. Once we can accept who we are, it’s easier to accept others for who they are.

When we can accept others for who they are we can look past their flaws and see the real person, the person they can be.

“Blissfulness is not something that you earn from outside. It is something that you dig deeper into yourself and find.” ~ Sadhguru Jaggi Vasudev

Joseph Campbell said, “If you follow your bliss, you put yourself on a kind of track that has been there all the while, waiting for you, and the life that you ought to be living is the one you are living. Wherever you are — if you are following your bliss, you are enjoying that refreshment, that life within you, all the time.”

So how do we follow and find our bliss? Eric Butterworth outlines a nine step guide to living your bliss in the article “Want a Step by Step Guide to Follow Your Bliss”. It basically breaks down as follows;

• The process has to start with you. What do you value and what makes you happy. But on a deeper level, do you even know who you are, what are your roadblocks, or dragons as Joseph Campbell calls our barriers.

• Take some time and start writing down all of your past experiences that you found enjoyable, ones that made your heart beat faster and you lost track of time doing. Continue adding to your list over a week or even a month, until you see a pattern.

• Once you start to see a pattern in what activities gave you the most joy, prioritize them, which activities did you enjoy the most and added the most value to you and more importantly, the value it added to someone else?

• Add the top activities that bring you happiness to your schedule. What can you do daily, weekly, monthly AND yearly that makes you happy, do it often enough and you may start to live a blissful life.

If you want to make a living by working in your bliss think of situations when other people may come to you for suggestions, help or listened to your thoughts on the subject. Is it something that adds value to them or the company they work for?

Are you getting paid for that information or service?

If not, why not? Even if you are living a blissful life you need to eat.

Napoleon Hill in this chapter of Think and Grow Rich states that the sixth sense,

“… defies description but it probably is the medium of contact between the finite mind of man and Infinite Intelligence, making it a mixture of both mental and spiritual. The six sense is located in a portion of the subconscious mind and is referred to as ‘Creative Imagination.’”

The Six Sense is also considered as intuition which is defined as;

A natural ability or power that makes it possible to know something without any proof or evidence: a feeling that guides a person to act a certain way without fully understanding why.

The definition of intuition fits the way Napoleon Hill explains the six sense as “the ‘receiving set’ through which ideas, plans, and thoughts flash into the mind. The ‘flashes’ are sometimes called ‘hunches’ or ‘inspirations.’”

Although Mr. Hill points out that to fully understand the sixth sense, you need to master the other principles of the Think and Grow Rich philosophies and by meditation through mind development from within.

Napoleon’s six sense, or the method he used to tap into Infinite Intelligence was through his “Invisible Counselors.” Having interviewed and studied hundreds of successful people Napoleon had specific people he “Hero-worshipped” and added them as his Invisible Counselors. The nine men were; Ralph Waldo Emerson, Thomas Paine, Thomas Edison, Charles Darwin, Abraham Lincoln, Luther Burbank, Napoleon Bonaparte, Henry Ford and Andrew Carnegie. These nightly imaginary meetings that Mr. Hill had with his Invisible Counselors where to help him rebuild his character and to represent the composition of his Invisible Counselors.

Over time Mr. Hill’s nightly meetings became so realistic that his characters took on their own habits and personalities and eventually frightened Mr. Hill so much that he discontinued them. Eventually, as Mr. Hill states, Lincoln showed up at his bedside and told him;

“The world will soon need your services. It is about to undergo a period of chaos which will cause men and women to lose faith, and become panic stricken. Go ahead with your work and complete your philosophy. That is your mission in life. If you neglect it, for any cause whatsoever, you will be reduced to a primal state, and be compelled to retrace the cycles through which you have passed during thousands of years.”

Some people claim that they can see ghosts, but to actually see Abraham Lincoln and then get a specific message from him would make someone take notice or think they were absolutely crazy. After this event he started his nightly meetings again and was welcomed back into the fold with a toast made by Lincoln. He soon added more Invisible Counselors to total about 50 people ranging from Christ to Plato.

Napoleon Hill didn’t know how this six sense worked but he did believe it was caused by an organ located in the brain that could receive vibrations to tap into the Infinite Intelligence. This special organ also provides people with intuitions, insights and hunches. Thomas Edison used his six sense to develop his inventions, he listened to and followed through with his six senses.

Today the organ that some claim is responsible for the six sense if the pineal gland. The pineal gland is a small, rice-sized, pinecone-shaped endocrine organ that sits alone in the middle of the brain and at the same level as the eyes. The famous philosopher Descartes described the pineal gland as the “principal seat of the soul.” You’ve probably heard of this gland being the “third eye,” a mystical chakra point residing right in the middle of your eyebrows.

You would think that if we all have this organ why don’t we all have some type of “six sense?” Unfortunately most people’s pineal gland is calcified, mainly from fluoride. Fluoride accumulates in the pineal gland more than any other organ and as your pineal gland hardens, less melatonin is produced and regulation of your wake-sleep cycle gets disturbed. In addition to fluoride, halides like chlorine and bromine also accumulate and damage the pineal gland. Calcium supplements can also cause problems. Without enough vitamin D calcium does not become bioavailable and calcifies human tissue, including the pineal gland.

So how do we reawaken our six sense? Do we want to awaken our own six sense? Are individuals “six sense” their special gift? There are a number of reality television shows that focus on individuals six sense. Some people receive messages from individuals who are either alive or dead like Mr. Hill, some claim to be able to communicate with past relatives for other people and some can even see the future.

What if your six sense is seeing dead people like the little boy Cole Sear in the 1999 Bruce Willis movie “The Sixth Sense.” Would you want to be able to see dead people? I don’t know, I think I may pass, especially seeing demons, unless it comes with the ability to see angels like Doreen Virtue does.

When anything is unexplainable people try to figure out what’s really going on scientifically. One reason why some people may have a heightened sense of perception, or sixth sense, is that they may be able to use their sense of smell better. Harvard researchers have studied the human olfactory bulb which receives signals from odor sensors in the nose? One question is; Do humans have a working sixth sense and do invisible chemicals still affect our behavior on an unconscious level? Research has shown that pheromones can be used to enhance mood and sexual attractiveness at a subconscious level.

Being the complex workings of the mind, no one knows what the true capabilities that the mind has. Is the Star Wars “Jedi mind control” possible? Some spiritual masters say yes, because they’ve seen it done or can do it themselves.

Lolly Daskal wrote in her article, “Change: The Sixth Sense,” that your sixth sense is emotions. Your emotions are triggered by one or many of the other five senses, sight, hearing, taste, smell, and touch. A leader’s ability to understand and read emotions and how they affect other people is essential. No one likes to work for an emotional leader. A rare leader is one that can not only control their own emotions but knows how to influence other people’s emotions, especially when implementing change.

So what is your sixth sense ability? I think everyone has some sort of ability, it was probably suppressed as we were growing up. Maybe those monsters in the closet where real!

What is the real gift that the Grand Overall Designer gave you, what is your sixth sense?

 

References;

Everything You Wanted to Know about the Pineal Gland: http://www.globalhealingcenter.com/natural-health/everything-you-wanted-to-know-about-the-pineal-gland/

Third Eye – Pineal Gland: http://www.crystalinks.com/thirdeyepineal.html

Doreen Virtue: http://www.angeltherapy.com/

Your Sixth Sense: https://www.psychologytoday.com/articles/201207/your-sixth-sense

Sixth sense – Testing and Training: http://www.spiritualresearchfoundation.org/spiritual-research/sixth-sense/how-to-test-your-sixth-sense/

Scientists Find Evidence for A Sixth Sense in Humans: http://news.harvard.edu/gazette/1999/05.20/sixth.sense.html

What do you desire?  Do you have the persistence to accomplish it? You can probably answer that question right now because I think the majority of us dream of something but just lack the will power, or persistence, to follow through to achievement.

Why is that? Why do we struggle to follow through with our desire to be and/or achieve more?

Napoleon Hill insists that persistence is a state of mind and can be cultivated. Like all states of mind, persistence is based upon definite causes.

Take a minute to grab a piece of paper and write down on the top what you desire, a life goal, and answer the follow questions;

DEFINITENESS OF PURPOSE. Knowing what one wants is the first and, perhaps, the most important step toward the development of persistence. A strong motive forces one to surmount many difficulties. 

Why do you want to achieve this goal, what is the purpose? How will it benefit you and the more important question, how will it benefit others?

DESIRE. It is comparatively easy to acquire and to maintain persistence in pursuing the object of intense desire.

In order to live your purpose you need to focus on what the positive outcomes will be in your life and why you desire this goal/purpose? We do have to remember that our purpose on this planet is to add value to others. If your desires focus on your own gratification you will eventually fail or die a lonely miserable life.

SELF-RELIANCE. Belief in one’s ability to carry out a plan encourages one to follow the plan through with persistence.

Do you believe you can achieve your goal and purpose? If not, what can you do to believe in yourself more?

DEFINITENESS OF PLANS. Organized plans, even though they may be weak and entirely impractical, encourage persistence. I believe one of the main reasons why people don’t achieve their purpose is due to not writing out the process to accomplish it. 

How can you break your goal down to actionable tasks to make them easier to accomplish?

ACCURATE KNOWLEDGE. Knowing that one’s plans are sound, based upon experience or observation, encourages persistence; “guessing” instead of “knowing” destroys persistence.

What can you do daily to increase your knowledge to help you achieve your purpose?

CO-OPERATION. Sympathy, understanding, and harmonious cooperation with others tend to develop persistence. Although this can also sabotage your plans due to criticism, you need to carefully choose who you share your purpose with.

Who will encourage and help you accomplish your desire or purpose? Who will laugh and criticize you?

WILL-POWER. The habit of concentrating one’s thoughts upon the building of plans for the attainment of a definite purpose, leads to persistence.

What actions can you schedule daily/weekly/monthly to increase your will-power?

HABIT. Persistence is the direct result of habit. The mind absorbs and becomes a part of the daily experiences upon which it feeds. Everyone’s life revolves around habits, even to the extent of not even realizing that we do them.

What is one habit you can change that will help you develop the persistence to accomplish your goals to achieve your desire?

These steps sound easy enough but unfortunately, like most easy things in life, they’re the hardest to implement. If you consistently struggle to achieve your desires then you need to examine what symptoms that cause you lack of persistence and then overcome them.

SYMPTOMS OF LACK OF PERSISTENCE

Here you will find the real enemies which stand between you and noteworthy achievement. Here you will find not only the “symptoms” indicating weakness of PERSISTENCE, but also the deeply seated subconscious causes of this weakness. Study the list carefully, and face yourself squarely IF YOU REALLY WISH TO KNOW WHO YOU ARE, AND WHAT YOU ARE CAPABLE OF DOING. These are the weaknesses which must be mastered by all who accumulate riches.

1. Failure to recognize and to clearly define exactly what one wants.

WHAT IS YOU DEFINITE PURPOSE? If you don’t know, don’t feel bad, the majority of people don’t. When I ask people what their goals are they either don’t know or don’t want to share them, probably due to the fear of criticism.

2. Procrastination, with or without cause. (Usually backed up with a formidable array of alibis and excuses).

WHAT DO YOU NEED TO START DOING TODAY? Do you procrastinate because you doubt yourself? If that’s the case then you need to start with the next symptom to the lack of persistence.

3. Lack of interest in acquiring specialized knowledge.

YOU CANNOT CHANGE WHAT YOU THINK TILL YOU CHANGE WHAT YOU STUDY. Is your purpose to live a long and healthy life? Do you want to become a realtor? The first step in achieving any goal or purpose is to know why it’s important and how to do it. You don’t achieve your purpose, or stay healthy by taking a pill. Focus daily on learning one thing that will help you achieve your purpose.

4. Indecision, the habit of “passing the buck” on all occasions, instead of facing issues squarely. (Also backed by alibis).

WHEN YOU BLAME OTHERS FOR YOUR MISTAKES YOU’LL ALWAYS MAKE MISTAKES. Once you realize that you’re responsible for the results you get, you’ll get better results.

5. The habit of relying upon alibis instead of creating definite plans for the solution of problems.

ARE YOU TIRED OF YOUR OWN EXCUSES? Look in the mirror and ask yourself, “How do I hold myself accountable?” Do you like the answer?

6. Self-satisfaction. There is but little remedy for this affliction, and no hope for those who suffer from it.

TO ACHIEVE YOUR PURPOSE YOU NEED TO DO WHAT YOU DON’T LIKE TO DO? Why do some people struggle to give up bad, life destructive habits? Temporary self-satisfaction is more of a priority then having to sacrifice something or do what’s hard to achieve your desires.

7. Indifference, usually reflected in one’s readiness to compromise on all occasions, rather than meet opposition and fight it. 

PEOPLE WHO COMPROMISE THEIR BELIEFS DEVALUE THEMSELVES. Each time you agree to do something that you disagree with, do you lessen your values? It’s alright to compromise on certain things, but not when it comes to achieving your ultimate purpose.

8. The habit of blaming others for one’s mistakes, and accepting unfavorable circumstances as being unavoidable.

YOU ARE THE RESULTS OF YOUR DECISIONS AND ACTIONS. People who complain about not having enough money usually blame their employer for not paying them enough. Here’s a thought, become more valuable by increasing your knowledge, skills and abilities and people will find more value in you.

9. Weakness of desire, due to neglect in the choice of MOTIVES that impel action.

LIFE BECOMES TOO EASY. We all get comfortable when we can pay the bills and enjoy life, but is it at the cost of achieving your desire to help someone else achieve theirs?

10. Willingness, even eagerness, to quit at the first sign of defeat.

OBSTACLES TO OUR DESIRES TEST OUR PERSISTENCE. If it was easy to accomplish your goals and achieve what you desire, everyone would do it. If you quit when it gets hard you either don’t deserve to accomplish your desire or it’s not your true purpose for being born. Don’t give up on you.

11. Lack of ORGANIZED PLANS, placed in writing where they may be analyzed.

BREAK DOWN THE BIG GOALS INTO SMALLER TASKS. One reason why some people never start to achieve their desire is because it looks too hard. You need to break it down into actionable, time bound steps. How do you eat an elephant? One bite at a time. How do you achieve your desires, one step toward it each day.

12. The habit of neglecting to move on ideas, or to grasp opportunity when it presents itself.

BELIEVE IN YOURSELF. I think one of the main reasons why we fail to move on ideas is because we doubt our abilities. Sometimes you just need to jump off the cliff and build your wings on the way down.

13. WISHING instead of WILLING.

THERE’S NO GENIE TO GRANT YOU WISHES. If you wish for a million dollars you still have to at least play the lottery. Instead of the lottery take that money and spend it on your own development. It’s a better investment and you have a greater chance at earning a million dollars.

14. The habit of compromising with POVERTY instead of aiming at riches. General absence of ambition to be, to do, and to own.

POVERTY IS A CHOICE. If you’ve grown up in poverty then you have a choice, continue living your current paradigm or develop a new one. The majority of people living in poverty don’t add value to themselves. If you live in the United States then poverty is a choice, if you rely on someone or something else for your own happiness you’ll be unhappy.

15. Searching for all the short-cuts to riches, trying to GET without GIVING a fair equivalent, usually reflected in the habit of gambling, endeavoring to drive “sharp” bargains.

“IF YOU HELP ENOUGH PEOPLE GET WHAT THEY WANT THEY’LL HELP YOU GET WHAT YOU WANT.” Zig Ziglar’s tag line says it all. You have to give to get, but you have to have something worth giving. People who don’t give may feel like they have nothing to give or don’t value themselves enough to believe that they have something of value to give. Which means they haven’t found their true purpose.

16. FEAR OF CRITICISM, failure to create plans and to put them into action, because of what other people will think, do, or say. This enemy belongs at the head of the list, because it generally exists in one’s subconscious mind, where its presence is not recognized. 

PEOPLE WHO CRITICIZE ARE JEALOUS.  Unfortunately this fear stops us from even sharing our goals. I’ve done some off the wall things in my life and believe me I’ve been criticized for it. I’m willing to live with my decisions and hopefully improve because of them. People who criticize are usually those who are afraid to do what you’re doing.

Look the list over and examine each symptom for the lack of persistence and find a way to heal yourself so that you can move forward in achieving your desire.

Napoleon Hill gives us four simple steps which lead to the habit of PERSISTENCE. They call for no great amount of intelligence, no particular amount of education, and but little time or effort.

The necessary steps which lead to the habit of PERSISTENCE are;

1. A DEFINITE PURPOSE BACKED BY BURNING DESIRE FOR ITS FULFILLMENT.

2. A DEFINITE PLAN, EXPRESSED IN CONTINUOUS ACTION.

3. A MIND CLOSED TIGHTLY AGAINST ALL NEGATIVE AND DISCOURAGING INFLUENCES, including negative suggestions of relatives, friends and acquaintances.

4. A FRIENDLY ALLIANCE WITH ONE OR MORE PERSONS WHO WILL ENCOURAGE ONE TO FOLLOW THROUGH WITH BOTH PLAN AND PURPOSE.

These four steps are essential for success in all walks of life. The entire purpose of the thirteen principles of the Think and Grow Rich philosophy is to enable one to take these four steps as a matter of habit.

It’s our daily habits that make who we are. If you don’t like your habits and struggle to change them then find someone who can help you, or at least hold you accountable. Some people have a trusted friend, belong to a mastermind group or hire a professional coach.

WHAT WILL YOU DO TO ACHIEVE YOUR DESIRES?

What are you telling yourself? I never really considered what I was thinking could actually program my subconscious mind to do what I was thinking. I don’t know about you but I can remember thinking of some negative things about myself. Yet when I reflect back at the good things I’ve done, it was a result of first thinking about what I saw the outcome being, and somehow it materialized.

I know, that sounds suspicious or fantastic, it didn’t really ‘materialize.’ If I hadn’t taken certain steps along the way it wouldn’t have happened. Once again when I think back through the time frame between thinking about what I saw in the future and doing it, I made decisions along the way to increase my knowledge, skills and abilities. At times something inside me just wouldn’t stop turning until I made the decision. I don’t think it was indigestion, I think it was my subconscious screaming at me, “Dude, if you’re going to achieve what you see, you need to do this.” Most of the time these decisions involved massive time commitments and money, but like Dr. John Maxwell says, “You have to give up, to go up.”

Some of the worst kinds of auto-suggestions are handed down to us from those closest to us, aren’t they? How many times have you heard a parent criticize their child and tell them their bad or can’t do something. I know we need to discipline unruly and disrespectful kids, but they are learning that behavior from somewhere, and sometimes I wonder who’s disciplining the ones who are supposed to be setting the example.

If you have a hard time thinking positive thoughts, or getting into the habit of doing it, there are some other options to help fill your subconscious with positivity.

Subliminals are the most common way to have certain habits or lifestyle changes consistently played over and over in your head. You can find hundreds of companies that offer their versions of how to stop smoking, lose weight, be healthier, make money, etc., etc. I admit that I have some of these and haven’t used them all that much.

The other way is with paraliminals which are messages at a frequency you can’t hear but your brain can. They use different types of sounds in the background like ocean waves, rain, or music. There aren’t as many companies that offer paraliminals, and some will even use your own voice. If you go this route make sure you use emotions when you tape your auto-suggestions so you get the most impact.

Don’t want to go through all that? Here are some thoughts;

Follow what is outlined in the chapters Faith and Auto-suggestions. Write out who you see yourself being and then, at a minimum repeat it to yourself in the morning and evening.
Cleanse your environment of negativity. That may be difficult if you have to work with, or even live with a negative person, but maybe they’ll chose to become more positive if they see you doing so.
Turn the news off in the morning. Do we really need to know what’s going on in the world three times a day? I know we need to be kept informed on what is going on in the world, just be careful who you’re getting your information from.
Subscribe to a daily positive and/or your purpose related information. If you want to lose weight or stop smoking, read daily on how unhealthy it is and what you can do to change habits. If you want to be a better leader, listen to a podcast or read daily.
The most important ingredient is,

You have to believe you can be before you will be!

The more I dig into all this self-improvement stuff it all comes down to that. You can have all the processes, techniques, pills, teachers, or money, you may achieve it for a period of time, but your self-image, your internal auto-pilot, will always guide you back to your internal self-image. If you’re self-image isn’t the person who you really want to be, you’ll always fly back to who you really see.

Purpose
“The Golden Goose of Life”

“I See Dead People.” No not really, but if you look in their eyes their dead. They’ve settled on what life has delivered to them and they either don’t have the motivation to do better for themselves or worse yet, don’t feel like they deserve it.

Business Concept. Why are We Here? Roadsign.What a minute, why wouldn’t someone believe they deserved better? Some people are told time after time that they’ll never amount to much and that’s a curse to the recipient, especially because they may start to believe it themselves.

If a person finds their purpose and then takes action toward living that purpose they’ll have the energy to drive towards it. At least, that is, until they hit some road blocks, and most of the time that road block is ourselves. Unfortunately those closest to us may be the ones condemning us to average, or even below average standards. Why, would those who love us the most restrain us the most?

It’s because they’re afraid of losing you.

In some relationships it gets to the point where the spouse is battered into submission. If that’s love I don’t want to have anything to do with it.

So let’s recap the first two purpose road blocks;

  1. Ourselves, due to not having the motivation or self-esteem to live your purpose
  2. Letting others control your dreams and ambitions.

Whenever someone discourages you from finding your purpose or improving yourself, find someone else to hang with.

I have to add Napoleon Hill’s Six Basic Fears to the list because I think they cause roadblocks to everything we do.

  1. The fear of poverty
  2. The fear of criticism
  3. The fear of death
  4. The fear of old age
  5. The fear of ill-health
  6. The fear of loss of Love

I’m sure that none of the Six Basic Fears impeded you from success, or even moving towards a goal.

Think about this for a minute. Do you know someone who has dreams but doesn’t pursue them? Are they miserable and whenever you’re around them they make you miserable? Maybe it’s time to help them find their purpose. Unfortunately, that’s easier said than done.

I have to admit, searching for your passion is a long and hard task, I’m still chasing it, but I think I’m catching up. Fortunately I didn’t run into many negative people who thought I was crazy doing what I’ve done and the money I’ve spent doing it. But then most people don’t understand The Law of Sacrifice, you have to give up to go up. The reality is;

Most people will not sacrifice their time and money to pursue their passion.

And then they end up living in poverty their entire life. Poverty not only in the terms of money, but broke emotionally and spiritually. If you look deep into their eyes you’ll also be able to see “dead people.”

What is your purpose, the golden egg of life, and how did you find it?

Why are some people able to overcome their fear of some things and other people can’t? Phobias control some people’s lives, it freezes them and prevents them from moving forward.

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Others can jump out of planes and fall through the sky, but they’re afraid to speak to a group of people.

What stops a person from pursuing their ambitions and dreams?

One of the first places I looked for answers was in Napoleon Hill’s book, “Think and Grow Rich.” He explains how the following Six Basic Fears prevent people from taking action;

  • Poverty – Napoleon Hill says that the fear of poverty is just a state of mind. There are a lot of happy people who are poor, and rich people who are miserable. It’s your state of mind and probably the desire for materialistic possessions. Mr. Hill also says that poverty is the most destructive of the six basic fears and list six symptoms of poverty, indifference, indecision, doubt, worry, over caution, and procrastination.
  • Criticism – Isn’t there enough criticism in the world today.  It seems like every time you turn around you’re being criticized. When you think about it, do the ones closest to you criticize you the most? You would think that they would encourage you the most, but sometimes that isn’t the case because they’re dealing with their own fears. Now, if you have kids, how have you criticized them?
  • Ill Health – Here’s hard pill to swallow, Mr. Hill states that 75 percent of all people who visit a doctor is a hypochondriac (at least in 1937). He also states that the fear of a specific illness may actually bring it on. The human mind can either build or destroy.
  • Loss of Love from Someone – Mr. Hill says this may be the most painful of the six fears. If you’re afraid of losing your mate do you start to become over protective and jealous? The more you fear it the more you protect it and the sooner you may achieve it.
  • Old Age – Age is a mindset, but also physical. I don’t think you need to fear old age, you just need to prepare yourself for it, physically, mentally and financially. Mainly physically, if you focus on that, the other two will follow.
  • Death – Why fear it, it’s going to come. I believe that the only time you need to fear death is if you fear the other side (if you believe in that). I believe that as long as you live by the Golden Rule you shouldn’t have too much to worry about. When your purpose has been served then it may be your time to go, I just plan on finding new purposes.

When I look at the list I think the leading fear is the fear of criticism. Who wanted to pursue their true passion but never made it public because they feared criticism?

Here’s the cycle of despair that starts with the fear of criticism. If you’re afraid of pursuing your dreams due to being criticized you’ll be stressed out which will cause ill health leading to the loss of love due to being on the edge and unhappy because you won’t be living your true passion. After you loss someone you love you are lead into poverty because of alimony and child support. The stress, loss of love and ill health will lead you to old age quicker and death before your peers.

How can some people be able to do something and others can’t, they’ve learned how to turn fear into excitement. Think about it, you can control your fear and it can be your biggest teacher. One of the keys is to understand how fear happens.

The three brain components that involves processing fear is the brain stem, amygdala and neocortex.

The first part, and the oldest, is the brain stem, otherwise known as the reptilian brain. The brainstem coordinates motor control signals sent from the brain to the body. The brainstem also controls life supporting autonomic functions. The brain stem doesn’t generate emotions and its primary function is to survive.

The amygdala part of the brain isn’t very large, but it can control your life without you even knowing it. It controls many of our emotions and motivations, particularly those that are related to survival. The amygdala is involved in the processing of emotions such as fear, anger and pleasure. It acts like a hard drive for your experiences and controls your emotions and fight or flight instincts. It produces the hormones adrenaline and cortisol, which causes physical reactions to fear.

The key to overcoming fear is to recognize those symptoms, the neocortex portion of the brain gives us the ability to do that and is only found in mammals and in humans accounts for about 76% of the brain’s volume. The neocortex consists of grey matter surrounding the deeper white matter of the cerebrum cortex and is involved in higher functions such as sensory perception, generation of motor commands, spatial reasoning, conscious thought, and in humans, language.

Once you recognize the symptoms of fear you can take control of them and that’s where the neocortex comes in handy. Stop the fear by asking yourself why you’re acting the way you are. Why are you getting angry, sweating, and breathing hard? It could stem from you doubting your own abilities. Stop and take your pulse, breathe deeply, and say, “Isn’t it interesting that my body is reacting like this?”

Treat fear not as an enemy but as a signal to bring you awareness. Once you start to evaluate why your physical reactions to fear is happening you learn to control the fear and turn it into excitement.

Doesn’t sky diving, roller coasters and sharing your knowledge to large groups of people sound exciting?

When you take doubt and worry from fear, does the emotion turn into excitement?

What do you fear?

Face it today to start living your life to the fullest.

If you overcame one of you fears, please share how you did it.