Face the fact, pure and simple—you can’t change people.
as you might, you will never change a man’s personality to make him conform to
your conception of what he should be.
are only three ways to change a man’s personality. There’s religious conversion,
there’s psychoanalysis, and there’s brain surgery. Since you are neither a
minister, a psychotherapist, nor a brain surgeon, you might as well stop
wasting your time.
are a manager in a tough, competitive business. Therefore, instead of vainly trying
to “build” a staff, make the best of what you’ve got. Try to develop the
potential that exists on your present staff. It must be there, or you wouldn’t
have hired those people in the first place.
my personal observations of top executives, both good and not-so-good, I find
that the most successful men are those who realize a basic, fundamental
proposition: that they must work almost entirely within the framework of other
people’s strengths and weaknesses, abilities and deficiencies. They make the best
of what they’ve got; they know how to handle people on their staff who, in
turn, must handle people themselves.
R. Feinberg, Ph.D., Effective Psychology
For Mangers, (1965)