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A recent conversation with a prominent psychologist revealed that, in his opinion, the whole purpose of psychology was to get people to understand themselves and then ACCEPT THEMSELVES. “This is the only real basis of any new changes, development of growth,” he said. “People don’t know how to look at themselves as a total individual. What I mean is that they fail to see all of the facts. Their attention becomes fixed on a few points about themselves and they fail to see that overall people are good – considering all the facts.”

~ Strickland & Shafe, How to Develop an Attitude for Success

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Man is not only a creature, he is a creator. Man has the same kind of guidance system as a plant or animal, but the system cannot function properly until man sets a goal. But man has to choose, or create the goal. It is not given to him. He must decide upon one. That is why there are such incredibly diverse human vocations. It is for the same reason that there are so many meaningless lives. Many people never set a goal. Their hope is too weak. Their self-images do not rally include their being successful, and their machinery never gets a chance to function.

Man has the same success mechanism to succeed as a human being, as a rosebush has to succeed as a plant. We are obviously made to think, to act, to carry out, to perform, and to create. We are obviously programmed by the Creator to succeed. We can easily determine that each of us has the automatic creative guidance system composed of a brain and nervous system and that it works like any other servo-mechanism, guidance mechanism, or computer. The system is a machine which you the human operator have to work for you or against you.

To grossly over-simplify the complexity of your mind’s functions, let us say the mechanism performs two major activities: (1) It keeps you on target, (2) it stores and gives you answers when you need them.

~ Strickland & Shafe, How to Develop an Attitude for Success

It is well to accept the idea that comparing yourself to others causes an unrealistic self-image. If you compare yourself with others, you run the risk of developing feelings of superiority or inferiority. There are simply no inferior or superior human beings. The equality of man is the only proper truth. In fact, only a person with an inferiority complex can desire to be superior. Psychoanalytic research confirms that a superiority complex is more often a sad and hopeless cover-up for feelings of worthlessness and despair.

~ Strickland & Shafe, How to Develop an Attitude for Success (1969)

Accepting reality is the first step toward self-realization. Most of us look at ourselves “as we would like to be” instead of how we actually are. Getting to know the real self is interesting, even fascinating. Getting to know others is even more so.

~ Strickland & Shafe, How to Develop an Attitude for Success (1969)

. . . we strongly urge “creative visualization”, “autosuggestion” or “the quiet room technique.” These ideas of creative visualization are not strange to you. They suggest that you set aside some time every day to recall your successful moments, your previous accomplishments, and your past happiness and good experiences, so that you can see yourself as a valuable individual. Looking at yourself in that manner, your computer will automatically bring up from memory similar experiences and feelings. Once you see yourself in this light it becomes easy to see yourself successfully achieving end results. The ideas and feelings are received so clearly and vividly that action has to follow. With thought and actions, dreams can be materialized.

~ Strickland & Shafe, How to Develop an Attitude for Success (1969)

In theory training we said “When seeking an answer, act as if the answer already exists.” This was sound advice because the answers do exist if you keep the computer warm, and you keep your hands off. This means that worry keeps the mechanism from functioning properly. It means that getting depressed lowers the temperature. It means anxiety and pressure draw a blank. We need to learn to live warmly and cheerfully, ideas will become more abundant. These ideas help you to establish clear cut goals. Let your guidance system take over. It can be medically established that there is stored in your computer mechanism a vivid recollection of everything you ever did, every successful outcome, every appropriate move, every gainful feeling. These feelings are yours to use if you learn how to operate your computer. If you can draw on the vast stores of information about yourself and life, you can bring many impressions together into a clear, vivid and believable picture. Once you can see yourself as successful the guidance system will guide you to the fulfillment of that picture.

~ Strickland & Shafe, How to Develop an Attitude for Success (1969)

You must learn how to compare yourself with your own norms or standards. That means you must be able to look at your background, your education, and your experiences to generally determine how these influences helped create the man you are today. It is the man, that you have to understand and accept.

~ Strickland & Shafe, How to Develop an Attitude for Success