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Most people see the problem of love primarily as that of being loved, rather than that of loving, of one’s capacity to love.  Hence the problem to them is how to be loved, how to be lovable. In pursuit of this aim they follow several paths. One, which is especially used by men, is to be successful, to be as powerful and rich as the social margin of one’s position permits. Another, used especially by women, it to make oneself attractive, by cultivating one’s body, dress, etc. Other ways of making oneself attractive, used both by men and women, are to develop pleasant manners, interesting conversation, to be helpful, modest, inoffensive. Many of the ways to make oneself lovable are the same as those used to make oneself successful, “to win friends and influence people.” As a matter of fact, what most people in our culture mean by being lovable is essentially a mixture between being popular and having sex appeal.

~ Eric Fromm, The Art of Loving (1956)

It is well to accept the idea that comparing yourself to others causes an unrealistic self-image. If you compare yourself with others, you run the risk of developing feelings of superiority or inferiority. There are simply no inferior or superior human beings. The equality of man is the only proper truth. In fact, only a person with an inferiority complex can desire to be superior. Psychoanalytic research confirms that a superiority complex is more often a sad and hopeless cover-up for feelings of worthlessness and despair.

~ Strickland & Shafe, How to Develop an Attitude for Success (1969)

The speech inspiration leans heavily on sincere convictions. For unless the speaker feels deeply about his subject, how can he move his audience? So, if you have developed a philosophy of living; if your beliefs means a great deal to you and you can be proud of them; if you take joy in sharing your credo publicly—or feel impelled to do so—you probably have that conviction. It provides the tinder to set you and your audience in a glow or perhaps a conflagration.

~ James F. Bender, The Technique of Executive Leadership (1950)

Persistence is an essential factor in the procedure of transmuting desire into its monetary equivalent. The basis of persistence is the power of will.

Will-power and desire, when properly combined, make an irresistible pair. Men who accumulate great fortunes are generally known as cold-blooded, and sometimes ruthless. Often they are misunderstood. What they have is will-power, which they mix with persistence, and place back of their desires to insure the attainment of their objectives.

~ Napoleon Hill, Think & Grow Rich (1937)

Not unapproachable: It is in the government that the really ungoverned have their being. To be unapproachable is the vice of people who do not know themselves; they confuse their spleen with their splendor. The road to affection does not lie in surliness. A show indeed, one of these erratics, making a point of his exclusiveness!  His unfortunate subordinates enter to have speech as to battle with a tiger, as full of spears as of fears. To win office, such a person could get himself in with everybody. But having arrived, his presumptuousness gets him out with everybody. Because of his place he should be accessible to the many. But because of his gall or his spite, he becomes accessible to none. A just punishment, to let him be, robbing him of both his brains and his following.

~ Baltasar Gracian, The Art of Worldly Wisdom (1647)

The soul attracts that which it secretly harbours; that which it loves, and also that which it fears; it reaches the height of its cherished aspirations; it falls to the level of its unchastened desires, and circumstances are the means by which the soul receives its own.

Every thought-seed sown or allowed to fall into the mind, and to take root there, produces its own, blossoming sooner or later into act, and bearing its own fruitage of opportunity and circumstance. Good thoughts bear good fruit, bad thoughts bad fruit.

The outer world of circumstance shapes itself to the inner world of thought, and both pleasant and unpleasant external conditions are factors, which make for the ultimate good of the individual. As the reaper of his own harvest, man learns both by suffering and bliss.

~ James Allen – As A Man Thinketh (1903)

The doer likes his work because he has no unpleasant jobs hanging fire. He has already cleaned them up. He does not dread the next task, for the unpleasant task is behind him.

DO FIRST THE THING YOU HATE MOST.

~ Dr. Donald & Eleanor Laird, The Technique of Getting Things Done. (1947)

If the Father deigns to touch with divine power the cold and pulseless heart of the buried acorn and to make it burst forth from its prison walls, will He leave neglected in the earth the soul of man, made in the image of his Creator? If He stoops to give to the rose bush, whose withered blossoms float upon the autumn breezes, the sweet assurance of another springtime, will He refuse the words of hope to the sons of men when the frosts of winter come? If matter, mute and inanimate, though changed by the forces of nature into a multitude of forms, can never die, will the spirit of man suffer annihilation when it has paid a brief visit like a royal guest to this tenement of clay? No, I am as sure that there is another life as I am that I live to-day!

~ William Jennings Bryan, The Prince of Peace

It may be that geniuses can work best in an attic room littered with dirt, but such a condition shows that they are the exception that proves the rule. The rest of mankind can work better in attractive surroundings.

Fortunately our surroundings can largely be selected or altered to suit our needs.

What estimate would you place on the working value of your surroundings? In my workroom at the laboratory here I have curtains, potted flowers, and an attractive, fresh paint. Window curtains and flowers seem rather out of place in a laboratory. But the truth of the matter is that they are exceedingly in place, although they are not common. Whether I am experimenting, writing, working over data, or conferring with students, the appearance of the room increases my efficiency.

Some rooms radiate the spirit and desire for work – others suggest Saturday night and spring housecleaning.

~ Dr. Donald Laird, Increasing Personal Efficiency (1936)

Don’t stand in your own shadow; get your little self out of the way so your big self can stride forward.

Make the most of yourself by fanning the tiny spark of possibility within you into the flame of achievement.

Follow the advice of Socrates: Know Thyself: know your strengths and your weaknesses; your relation to the universe; your potentialities; your spiritual heritage; your aims and purpose; take stock of yourself.

Create the kind of self you will be happy to live with all your life.

~ Wilferd A. Peterson, The Art of Living (1961)