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Talking in terms of the other person’s interests pays off for both parties. Howard Z. Herzig, a leader in the field of employee communications, has always followed this principle. When asked what reward he got from it, Mr. Herzig responded that he not only received a different reward from each person but that in general the reward had been an enlargement of his life each time he spoke to someone.

Principle 5: Talk in terms of the other person’s interests.

~ Dale Carnegie, How to Win Friends and Influence People, (1936)

The duality of mind. 

You have only one mind, but your mind possesses two distinctive characteristics. The line of demarcation between the two is well known to all thinking men and women today. The two functions of your mind are essentially unlike. Each is endowed with separate and distinct attributes and powers. The nomenclature is as follows: The objective and subjective mind, the conscious and subconscious mind, the waking and sleeping mind, the surface self and the deep self, the voluntary mind and the involuntary mind, the male and the female, and many other terms. You will find in terms “conscious” and “subconscious” used to represent the dual nature of your mind throughout this book.

~ Joseph Murphy, The Power of Your Subconscious Mind(1963)

If God show mercy to thousands, labor to know that this mercy is for you. A man that was ready to drown saw a rainbow, saith he, “What am I better though God will not drown the world if I drown.” So, what are we better, that God is merciful, if we perish? Let us labor to know God’s special mercy to us.

~ William Curtis Stiles, Excuse Me (1898)

A society has an image of itself, its way of life. This image is a wavering, composite picture reflected from millions of minds. If the image is largely compounded of the events of the present; if tradition is weak, the past forgotten, that image can alter by subtle degrees. A “cold war” such as we are fighting demands great tenacity in democratic institutions. Secrecy grows, technicians multiply, two great societies shoulder each other down a road that may look increasingly alike to both. The humane tradition—arts, letters, philosophy, the social sciences—threatens to be ignored as unrealistic in what has become a technological race for survival.

Man was a social animal long before he was man. But when he created huge societies and elaborated the world of culture that surrounds him today, he was acting, in some degree, consciously. Man, unlike the animal, is aware of the nature of his society. His conscious image of it is tremendously important in shaping what it will become. It is this that helps to build the human future, and why the future must be fought for day by day in the lives of innumerable and humble men.

~ Loren Eiseley, An Evolutionist Looks at Modern Man (1960)

The four grand qualities of self-reliance are:

  1. Decision makes a man strong. The waverer is the weakling.
  2. Steadfastness arises in the mind that is quick to decide. It is, indeed, a final decision upon the best course of conduct and the best path in life.
  3. Dignity clothes, as with a majestic garment, the steadfast mind.
  4. Independence is the birthright of the strong and well-controlled man. All men love and strive for liberty. All men aspire to some sort of freedom.

~ James Allen, Eight Pillars of Prosperity (1911)

One of the best ways to make money during the first thirty years of life is to invest it in reading that counts. Saved money may be lost, but hoarded knowledge sticks and multiplies at an illegal rate of interest.

Henry Ford is speaking in his slow, deliberate way. “Saving money as it has been schooled in young people gives money altogether too high a place. The young person’s job is not to accumulate dollars, but to use them to prepare himself with training, knowledge, and experience every leader needs.

~ Dr. Donald & Eleanor Laird, The Technique of Getting Things Done. (1947)

How do I fire a long-time associate, a good friend? What do I tell him, and how do I break the bad news?

It’s an impossible situation, and I have never seen anyone handle it well. Most of the time the president avoids the issue and continues to hang on to his friend. The president rationalizes: “My old friend has 25 years in the company. How can I do this to him?”

A poor manager keeps the executive in his old job and lets him die there. A better manager transfers his old friend to a position of less responsibility, putting him out to pasture, and prays for a resignation. The smart manager does the deed and gets it out of the way so he can worry about more important matters.

Firing an old friend is a bloody mess. It will make you sick, and you won’t sleep well for weeks. But this is your job. How does a general respond when he has to send out a platoon knowing it isn’t coming back? The general has to take the hill at all costs. He sacrifices the platoon in order to win the battle.

~ Mortimer R. Feinberg, Ph.D., Effective Psychology For Mangers, (1965)

Fools make feasts, and wise men eat them.

The poor have little, beggars none; the rich too much, enough, not one.

Eat to live, and not live to eat.

~ Benjamin Franklin, Poor Richards Almanac, May 1733

In waging war, victory is the prize but, if it is delayed, both troops and weapons are blunted; besieging a city exhausts your strength; a protracted campaign depletes the state’s resources. With your soldiers and weapons dull, strength and resources spent, your rivals will seize their chance and rise up against you. Then, no matter how wise you are, you can turn nothing to your advantage.

~ Sun Tzu, The Art of War

Even if you are not a religious person by nature or training-even if you are an out-and-out skeptic—prayer can help you much more than you believe, for it is a practical thing. What do I mean, practical? I mean that prayer fulfills these three very basic psychological needs which all people share, whether they believe in God or not:

  1. Prayer helps us to put into words exactly what is troubling us.
  2. Prayer gives us a sense of sharing our burdens, of not being alone.
  3. Prayer puts into force an active principle of doing. It’s a first step toward action.

~ Dale Carnegie, How To Stop Worrying And Start Living (1944)