So great is the human need for love and approval that a man will even deceive himself, if necessary, rather than face the fact that he might not deserve it. Undisguised, his behavior might not always merit approval. He may do things that are inconsiderable, unkind, or even downright cruel. But rather than face himself in an unkind light, even to his own eyes, his unconscious mind will protect his image of himself. Thus:
- He rationalizes. He says, “I did it because . . . ,” providing good and substantial reasons for his behavior.
- He projects. He disowns the fault, seeing it as the other fellow’s problem.
- He displaces. He blames someone else for his own faults that he cannot except.
- He compensates. He stretches himself in one area when he has failed in another.
~ Mortimer R. Feinberg, Ph.D., Effective Psychology For Managers, (1965)