Leadership Gold – Chapter Four: When You Get Kicked In the Rear, You Know You’re Out In Front

July 30, 2012 — 5 Comments

How many of you have had a situation in your life when you couldn’t sit down because whenever you tried to do something new, someone was kicking you in the rear?  Criticism is always a hard pill to swallow, I know it is for me, but like John points out in this chapter, it depends on who the source is.

Kick Me

 

I know someone who criticizes everything, except himself. If the person is not even happy with themselves, how can they be happy with anyone else?

When you do get criticized, do you know the subject and the other person isn’t as aware of the circumstance? Maybe you failed to raise their awareness of the situation? Discuss what their concerns are.

You also have to ask yourself why the criticism was given. Some people enjoy finding fault in others, because it makes them feel better about themselves.

It’s easier to accept criticism if you accept yourself. John states in the book, “If you worry about what other people think of you, it’s because you have more confidence in their opinion than you have in your own.”

What I tend to do with my worst critics is to go out of my way to talk to them. I wanted to let them know that just because they didn’t agree with me that I didn’t hold it against them and we could still maintain a professional working relationship.

Of course there is always the other option to just not do anything that someone else would criticize you doing. I don’t think you could get out of bed, but then someone would criticize you for staying in bed.

So reflect back to the last time when you criticized someone, or you were criticized. What was/ your first thought before you responded back to the person offering you their version of how it should be done?

First, who is the one criticizing me, what is their character?

Second is to think about how the criticism was given. Was it in a sarcastic tone, or one that reflect a desire to help you improve?

Third, did the other person try to hurt you because they are hurting from low confidence and self-esteem?

There’s nothing wrong with expressing your opinion to others, just be careful on how you do it. Will it be a learning experience, or a confrontation?

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