How can you ever overcome your fear if you don’t stand up to it? You need to face your fear, don’t let your fight or flight animal instincts take over. When you feel the physical reactions to fear start to kick in stop and say to yourself, “Interesting, my breathing is increasing, my palms are sweaty, my heart beat is increasing.”
Take a couple of slow deep breaths as you think about why your body is reacting to the situation. As you keep breathing, think about what you can do to put your fear aside. Because once you reflect and think about it, you realize that the more you’re afraid the less you’re able to control the situation.
Maybe the key is to start small and work your way up to bigger things. If you’re afraid of heights, get used to standing on a ladder, one rung at a time. Set a goal to go up one a day till you can sit on top of it (which may not be too safe).
If your fear is speaking in front of a group of people, start by standing in front of a mirror speaking to yourself. Better yet, record yourself doing it and then watch it. You’re either going to say, “Well that’s not so bad,” or (if you’re like me), “You do suck.”
The key is to practice, as Mr. Carnegie said, “Action breeds confidence and courage.” The more action, or practice, the more confidence you’ll have, and people around you will feel your confidence.
Isn’t that another animal instinct, to sense fear? They say some animals can sense fear, so humans should be able to also, I would think even more so since humans are farther evolved. But maybe some humans have evolved so far that they have disregarded this ability because we just can’t scientifically prove it.
What actions have you taken to overcome one of your fears?