Your Biggest Mistake is Not Asking What Mistake You’re Making
I can’t even think how many times I don’t ask what kind of mistakes I’ve made, and that’s just in one day!
Do you get upset when someone points out a mistake you made? I have to admit, I even get short with some people who tell me I made a mistake. I think to myself, “if you don’t like it do it yourself,” instead of asking, “how can it be done better.”
You should welcome criticism, shouldn’t you? But it all depends on how it is given, and by whom. Whenever you need to talk to someone about a mistake they made be sincere, tell a story about the time you made a similar mistake, and offer some guidance.
It all sounds good doesn’t it, but asking others about your mistakes is really hard for some people. Some bosses don’t like to let their employees know that they are even capable of making a mistake, their ego will only hamper motivation, but also decrease morale for those that work with them.
John Maxwell outlines in this chapter five things that you need to do to fail successfully;
- Admit your own mistakes and weaknesses.
- This is one of the hardest things to do for some folks. The shocking truth to it is that most people already know what mistakes you’ve made and what you’re weaknesses are. If you talk to them about it, you’ll ease their fears because they think you don’t know!
- Accept mistakes as a price of progress.
- Do you know how to not make any mistakes? Easy, don’t do anything. Of course then you have to give up your dreams, motivations, and passions. If your pursue any of those, you’ll make mistake, so get over it.
- Insist on learning from your mistakes.
- How do you learn from your mistakes? One way is to reflect on what went wrong and what you should do differently the NEXT time. Those that don’t reflect on their mistakes either make them again or give up. Another good thing to do is to keep a journal. Thomas Edison did as he made 10,000 mistakes while perfecting the light bulb.
- Ask yourself and others, “What are we missing?”
- Everyone sees things differently, to some extent. Other people have different experiences, so they may be able to help you fix the mistake.
- Give the people around you permission to push back.
- Does your boss let you push back? If you do, how effective have you been? If the people you work with won’t give you honest feedback when needed, quit your job immediately. I say this because if you ever resisted feedback from your employees they’ll find pleasure in seeing you make mistakes. They may even help you make some mistakes.
The main thing needed between the leader and those he works with is trust. Without it you’ll definitely struggle to succeed. If they don’t trust you they won’t be honest with you when you ask, “What mistakes have I made in this relationship?”