Archives For Daily Success Secrets

So if you aspire to be a good conversationalist, be an attentive listener. To be interesting, be interested. Ask questions that other persons will enjoy answering. Encourage them to talk about themselves and their accomplishments.

Remember that the people you are talking to are a hundred times more interested in themselves and their wants and problems than they are in you and your problems. A person’s toothache means more to that person than a famine in China which kills a million people. A boil on one’s neck interests one more than forty earthquakes in Africa. Think of that the next time you start a conversation.

~ Dale Carnegie, How to Win Friends and Influence People, (1936)

The Art of Being.

The art of being is the assumption that you possess, this very minute, those qualities of spirit and attitudes of mind that make for radiant living.

It is a philosophy of being today, instead of becoming in a tomorrow that never comes.

It is recognizing that courage, joy, serenity, faith, hope and love are immediately available now, and proceeding to open yourself so these qualities can be expressed through you in everyday living.

It is following the maxim of Shakespeare: “Assume a virtue though you have it not” …knowing that the dynamic power of habit can build it into your character.

~ Wilferd A. Peterson, The Art of Living (1961)

Eight Guide Posts to Courtesy

I like to think of eight building blocks of courtesy for leaders:

C stands for the courage to be kind when things go wrong.

O stands for the other fellow’s point of view, to keep in mind.

U stands for urgency to say and do pleasant things.

R stands for rules of conduct that make us pleasant to be with.

T stands for temper, to be held in check.

E stands for everyone, to be treated politely.

S stands for sincerity—of smile, handclasp, word, that help so much.

Y stands for you (and me) whose duty is to deal with others as we wish to be dealy with.

Courtesy is only one of more than 17,000 traits of temperament. At least you can count that many trait names in Webster’s New International Dictionary. Of course many of them overlap; for example, cheerfulness and lightheartedness. When you try to differentiate some of them you get lost in the mists of semantics.

~ James F. Bender, The Technique of Executive Leadership (1950)

We should be aware of the magic contained in a name and realize that this single item is wholly and completely owned by the person with whom we are dealing…and nobody else. The name sets the individual apart; it makes him or her unique among all others. The information we are imparting or the request we are making takes on a special importance when we approach the situation with the name of the individual. From the waitress to the senior executive, the name will work magic as we deal with others.

Principle 3: Remember that a person’s name is to that person the sweetest and most important sound in any language.

~ Dale Carnegie, How to Win Friends and Influence People, (1936)

No slave to vulgar moods: A great person is never the victim of passing fancies. This is a good precept to meditate upon yourself, to discover your present mood and to prepare against it. Or even to throw yourself into an opposite one, in order to come to rest between the natural and the assumed, on the balance point of common sense. It is a principle that in order to improve yourself, you must first know yourself. For there exist veritable monsters of moodiness, always of a different temper, and of a different mind with each. Eternally enslaved by their smug intemperance, they involve themselves most consistently, their excess checkmating not only their purpose but attacking their judgement, thus defeating both their ends and their plan.

~ Baltasar Gracian, The Art of Worldly Wisdom (1647)

I woke, and the night was passing,

I woke, and the night was passing,

And over the hills there shone

A star all alone in its beauty

When the other stars were gone—

And over the hills there shone

A star all alone in its beauty

When the other stars were gone—

For a glory was filling the heavens

That came before the day,

And the gloom and the stars together

Faded and passed away.

Only the star of the morning

Glowed in the crimson sky—

It was like a clear voice singing,

“Rejoice! For the Sun is nigh!”

O children! A Star is shining

Into the hearts of men—

It is Christ with a voice of singing,

“Rejoice! For I come again!

“For the long, long night is passing,

And there cometh the golden day;

I come to my own who love Me,

To take them all away.

“It may be to-day or to-morrow,

Soon it will surely be;

Then past are the tears and the sorrow—

Then Home forever with Me.”

~ G. Campbell Morgan, God’s Methods With Man (1898)

A man should be superior to his possessions, his body, his circumstances and surroundings, and the opinions of others and their attitude toward him. Until he is this, he is not strong and steadfast. He should also rise superior to his own desires and opinions; and he is this, he is not wise.

The man who identifies himself with his possessions will feel that all is lost when these are lost; he who regards himself as the outcome and the tool of circumstances will weakly fluctuate with every change in his outward conditions; and great will be his unrest and pain who seeks to stand upon the approbation of others.

To detach oneself from every outward thing, and to rest securely upon the inward Virtue, this is the Unfailing Wisdom. Having this Wisdom, a man will be the same whether in riches or poverty. The one cannot add to his strength, nor the other rob him of his serenity. Neither can riches defile him who has washed away all the inward defilement, not the lack of them degrade him who has ceased to degrade the temple of his soul.

~ James Allen, “All These Things Added” (1903)

“Wars will be fought in space,” prophesied a high military authority recently. “Teach children the hard things first.” “Ah, but what hard things?” the teacher asks, because youth is shaped in the teaching and becomes what he is taught. Without spiritual insight and generosity, without the ability to rise beyond power and mechanical extensions, man will encounter in place of the nature which gave him birth only that vast, expanding genie rising from his own brain—himself. Nothing more terrible threatens to confront him in his final hour.

~ Loren Eiseley, An Evolutionist Looks at Modern Man

The infinite intelligence within your subconscious mind can reveal to you everything you need to know at every moment of time and point of space provided you are open-minded and receptive. You can receive new thoughts and ideas enabling you to bring forth new inventions, make new discoveries, or write books and plays. Moreover, the infinite intelligence in your subconscious can impart to you wonderful kinds of knowledge of original nature. It can reveal to you and open the way for perfect expression and true place in your life.

~ Joseph Murphy, The Power of Your Subconscious Mind

General George Catlett Marshall said, “I’d like to make three suggestions about carrying out your responsibilities of leadership out there:

  1. Listen to the other fellow’s story.
  2. Don’t get mad.
  3. Let the other fellow tell his story first”

~ James F. Bender, The Technique of Executive Leadership (1950)